Thursday, 31 July 2014

Silent Blogger Living in the closet (Gay)

By: Silent Blogger
Living in the closet (Gay)

I grew up in a very religious family, with both parents who are fully committed to Christ, from an early age I always knew that I was different from other boys, however I always pushed the gut feeling under the carpet because I grew up in a society that has already set expectations of how a male and female should behave and conduct themselves.

Everything started when I reached the puberty years I therefore realized that I was attracted to the same sex, it was hard to accept how I was feeling emotionally, mainly because my parents stressed the idea of me getting married and blessing them with grandchildren. In a society where its not common for men to date each other, I did my best to shove the feelings inside the Bible hoping that Christ, who in his word is against homosexuality, would deliver me from my demons(as they referred in church).

Also the idea of my family finding out that I am gay would bring shame to the community. NB My parents are highly respected in my community, therefore I decide to distance myself from friends and family in fear of rejection, and  discrimination, I suppressed my feeling in every possible way I could. I had no one to talk to, not even the pastor who was suppose to comfort and guide me. I was alone in my struggle, had suicidal thoughts each and every second. I felt rejected by the Bible itself, that was meant to teach love.

I didn't understand why it had to be me, who endured so much suffering and pain, why could I not be normal (as society phrase it). One thing I knew is that I didn't chose to be gay. I kept looking for answers without any success, I felt like a sinner, who did not deserve Gods grace, a disgrace to the world.

I moved from one church to another, in hope that I might get deliverance and be normal, but as years went by the urge only grew stronger I needed to be loved. Everything about homosexuality that is condemned wrong in the bible, felt right in my soul, I therefore came to a realization that I need to start pleasing myself and not try to change me for the world that wouldn't accept me anyway. Yes it took time and a lot of soul searching to come to a conclusion about my sexuality.

But after that, I had another assignment to do (To tell my family), however the decision wasn't planned I remember I was in a taxi during holidays going back home, when  I had the thought of telling my parents about my sexuality. When I got home, I found my mom cooking and my dad just went to visit his friends. I informed my mom to set up a family meeting when my dad comes back, because there is something I want to discuss with them.

When my dad arrived, we all gathered in the living room and everything else is history. All I can remember was my dad crying hysterically, like his hopes were broken. I cried too the whole night, my mom tried to be strong to comfort the whole family, but I could see the pain in her eyes. But all they said, that till this day I wont forget is "We love you just the way you are".

The moral of the story is : Nothing comes easy in life and we must take one step at the time, when dealing with real people and real feelings. the only thing that matters is how you see yourself and If you love yourself enough to be who you are.

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Wednesday, 30 July 2014

Are women Gold Diggers

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The notion about love and money in relationships according to the historical records have long existed in Africa, whereby women depended on their husband for financial resources, but nowadays it’s easy to find people being judgemental about women's love for marital things in her relationship. Well according to the research our great grandmothers were always searching for boyfriends who were hard working and had the capacity of building a stable home.

Evidently the historical records prove that men were always providers since the beginning of time, therefore love and money was always hand in hand, with men obliged to provide for their girlfriends. Men were using their gifts and wages to attract women in the past, their ability to acquire financial resources meant they could get any women they wanted.

Saying women are "Gold diggers'' is an understatement without understanding the history of provider love. Men must provide for their women and that’s a fact (according to my understanding), times have changed and things are now more expensive, therefore women demanding more money to “survive” and satisfy their needs. But with the ever changing time women are taking the initiative to become educated and look after themselves.

HENCE the answer is Women are not gold diggers, but they looking out for themselves in your expense (If I may say)

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Sunday, 20 July 2014

Maya Angelou

This week we celebrate the life of the late Maya Angelou a Poet, activist, memoirist, actress, professor and Icon to the world with some of her best quotes. enjoy!

1. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

2.“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”

3.“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.”

4.“Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.”

5.“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” (my favorite quote)

And her last words on twitter was

“Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God’

Friday, 18 July 2014

1st Mandela Day since his death

Today marks the first birthday since Mandela's dearth, and people all around the world are celebrating his birthday by dedicating 67 minutes of their time to assist the needy and help build a better South Africa. There are numerous initiative that are always welcome to a helping help willing to assist this Mandela day. 

You can be a part of Making Change Real in the lives of the many children, youth and communities that the 4Change Foundation serves. By participating in the Flash Mob Experience you will literally be contributing to the cause that Nelson Mandela stood for.Guests are invited to join in a flash mob dance and exercise experience for 67 minutes, 1 minute for every year that our honorable Madiba spent in public service. 

Professional choreographer Carlo McFarlane along with fitness experts, DJ’s, celebrities and special guests will take 100 to 500 participants through a sequence of high energy, simple and dynamic dance and exercise workouts which all culminate in a 6 minute 7 second flash mob routine in honor of our iconic hero “Nelson Mandela.”This will take place at Kloofzicht Lodge in Muldersdrift from 1pm to 2:07pm.

 Please feel free to visit thier website or 4Change Foundation Facebook page.Register now by clicking on this link

Afronevism Entertainment advises you to go out and offer your help to others

Thursday, 17 July 2014

AKA (Run Jozi) New Single

South African rapper AKA has recently dropped the second single off album ‘Levels’. The collaboration with K.O. is titled “Run Jozi (Godly)” I had the opportunity to listen to the song and without being biased the song is catchy, exciting and entertaining it includes elements of South African originality with skill-full rap and vernac chorus . AKA fans went nuts over the new single that caught many people’s attention. the album is said to be released  July. there is much anticipating about the album, however the single manage to get people interested to hear what AKA has been working on.

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Mshoza's complexion

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It’s heartening to see more and more black girls trying to trade their skin colour for a lighter tone. Young Girls are now convinced that abandoning their skin colour and replacing them with a lighter tone IS the wisest and coolest thing to do. Skin product's in the past were used to enhance women's beauty not change them, but nowadays magazines and televisions are influencing young women to believe that beauty only reside in being lighter. well while I was growing up my mother used to say "black is beautiful " , but I never imagined in a thousand years, that I would be standing in a market place looking for a product that will lighten my skin ( guilty as charged).

However black women’s use of cosmetics and weaves has made them vulnerable to accusations of racial shame (is it true?), the world is divided with those who strongly believe that black women should be proud of their natural hair and skin colour and others who agree that being African is not defined by your hair and cosmetic choice. But are we really comfortable with our skin colour?

With Steve Biko, Nelson Mandela and Maya Angelou gone, I wonder who will teach us and our children the lessons to be proud of our blackness.  Obviously opting for a lighter complexion won’t make one more beautiful than before, but if it makes her feel better than it should be it. But now black women should start abandon their desire and ways to turn themselves white and recognize that inner-beauty is what counts. After all the temple (Body) is yours so do as you please with it, but remember that every action has its consequences. 
 So love yourself - Your Black is beautiful GIRL

Story By: Bobontle Mopeloa

Friday, 11 July 2014

On recent celebville new

X factor South Africa's Judges have been revealed. Zonke, Arno Carstens and Oskido join the search for the country’s next biggest singer. the show will play onSABC 1 September 6, the winner will recieve will receive a Sony Music Entertainment recording contract and a cash prize of R300 000.

Monday, 7 July 2014

On the Recent celebville news

Oscar Pistorius Fever has hit the media industry again , with several newspapers covering his leaked video today, that apparently was obtained illegaly
Leaked Video Shows Oscar Pistorius Reenacting Shooting of Girlfriend. In a clip, the 27-year-old— without his prosthetic lower legs— appears to imitate holding a gun in his Pretoria, and demonstrating his act on the actual valentines day where he shot his girlfriend. 
The video is still to be showed at the court, where Oscar's trial is still continuing.

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Moving swifly 
South African Musicians Mi Casa are joining other top African artists in a music spectacular. they are  part of Africa Rising which will be broadcast by Channel O, the music show on DStv. 
congrats to the group!

Durban July Fashion winners
Fashion is about aesthetics,comfort and beauty, now we take a look at Durban July fashion to dissect the best dressed I guess?
                                                                                     Minnie Mkhwanazi
                                                          (white is always a safe colour to pick, but she was able to bring the                   
angelic/naughty look into it)

Designer David Tlale and former Miss South Africa Tatum Keshwar
Thobeka Majozi
                                                             (brough the fire back with red)
pictures from City Press and sunday times

Friday, 4 July 2014

On the Recent celebville news

According to the Sunday newspaper, South African singer, actress  Marah Louw's life has taken the worst turn , apparently because her finances, health and love life isn't working out. Marah Louw was famous for her role in Muvhango and as former SA Idols Judge.
But being human means facing trails and tribulation, we wish her luck.